II Samuel 20: Ruthless Bloodshed

David’s return to Jerusalem in the previous chapter was not without its drama and power struggles. A rebellion of a very serious nature follows in chapter 20. Sheba leads a rebellion against King David in chapter 20. Perhaps Sheba, son of Bichri, was inspired by Absalom’s rebellion and the support he was able to garner against King David. The text suggests that Sheba was a scoundrel of sorts, and he inspired a general rebellion among the northern tribes. Sheba instructed the men that were with him to go back to their homes, to rebel against David from there. 

Amasa was the commander of Absalom’s armies, but had since been recommissioned to lead the armies of David after Absalom’s death. David gave Amasa three days to prepare his armies to follow Sheba and his men and defeat them. However, Amasa took longer than David had directed. Because of this, David asks Abishai, Joab’s older brother, to gather up armies and to quell Sheba’s revolt. Joab now enters the story and goes with the men assembled under Abishai with his own elite fighting force of men. 

As Abishai and Joab were leading their men in pursuit of Sheba’s rebellion, they come in contact with Amasa at a large stone in Gibeon. Joab, bold and rash as ever, approaches Amasa under the pretext of giving him a brotherly greeting but instead underhandedly stabs him in the belly with his sword. Amasa dies in the dirt and is moved to the side of the road and covered so that Abishai and Joab’s men are not worried by the sight of one of their countrymen ruthlessly killed in the road. They continue to pursue Sheba and the rebellion.

Sheba in the interim is gathering support for his rebellion all throughout Judah. But Abishai and Joab catch up with him in Abel and they begin to besiege the city using a siege mound. A siege mound was the gathering of dirt and debris against the side of a fortified city wall so that it could be overcome and entered. 

But just as they are battering the wall, presumably atop the mound to throw it down, a wise woman cries from within and is able to speak directly to Joab. Her and Joab’s exchange is as follows: “…I am among the peaceable and faithful in Israel. You seek to destroy a city and a mother in Israel. Why would you swallow up the inheritance of the Lord?” And Joab answered and said, “Far be it, far be it from me, that I should swallow up or destroy! That is not so. But a man from the mountains of Ephraim, Sheba the son of Bichri by name, has raised his hand against the king, against David. Deliver him only, and I will depart from the city.”

After this exchange, the woman says that she will throw Sheba’s head over the wall of the city. The woman was actually able to get help from others within the city to do just that. Sheba’s head is cut from his body and thrown over the wall. When Joab sees it, he blows a trumpet, and all of the men of the rebellion surrender, returning to their tents. Summarily, David’s army returns to Jerusalem. The chapter ends with the description of the ancient org chart of David’s leadership team, with Joab now as the commander. 

What can we learn from this bloody chapter? Here are four things:

  1. Partial or slow obedience can jeopardize the mission.
    1. Amasa’s delay was not absolutely detrimental to the mission – you can thank Abishai and Joab for that. But his delay could have resulted in Sheba’s ability to consolidate power and perhaps return to Jerusalem to take it over again. When we delay what is needed, someone else more competent will often step in to save the situation. However, if there is no one to step in, calamity can result.
  2. When evil is bold, violence is sometimes necessary.
    1. David, just having gotten back his kingdom at a great cost, is vulnerable to lose it again. King David is purposeful and decisive in his action to stop the rebellion. When Amasa is incapable of being immediately effective, enter Joab, the seemingly bloodthirsty yet loyal warrior under David. Yet even Joab, as forceful and strong as he was, could see the wisdom proffered by the wise lady at Abel. His agreement to stop the attack upon the deliverance of Sheba’s decapitated head was a wise one. 99 times out of 100, violence is not the answer. Indeed, it is a last resort. But sometimes, when evil is bent on destruction and overtaking, the righteous must take up arms to defend goodness, the innocent, and what is rightfully theirs. 
  3. Wisdom can diffuse destruction – often from unlikely places.
    1. The wise unnamed woman in Able was able to save an entire kingdom from further mass bloodshed and the fortified city of Abel from complete destruction. Always be willing to hear advice, for you never know from where a solution might appear.
  4. Division starts small but can grow quickly
    1. Whether you are the leader of a team, a family, or serve in the brotherhood as one, be wary of and on the lookout for division among the team. What starts as a whisper can grow into a murderous cancer capable of destroying everything if it is not addressed quickly and utterly.

II Samuel 19: Bittersweet Homecoming

As David mourns the loss of Absalom, Israel mourns with him. David is still in the mountains as he mourns, and has not yet returned to Jerusalem. Joab, however, true to character, rebukes David in verses 5-7: “Today you have disgraced all your servants who today have saved your life, the lives of your sons and daughters, the lives of your wives and the lives of your concubines, in that you love your enemies and hate your friends. For you have declared today that you regard neither princes nor servants; for today I perceive that if Absalom had lived and all of us had died today, then it would have pleased you well. Now therefore, arise, go out and speak comfort to your servants. For I swear by the Lord, if you do not go out, not one will stay with you this night. And that will be worse for you than all the evil that has befallen you from your youth until now.”

Joab’s threat was likely meant to spur David on to more kingly action than it was meant to be sincere. Joab’s perspective was that of a warrior; he had fought and sacrificed on David’s behalf and it was shameful that David would mourn his traitorous son rather than celebrate the victory won by his armies. 

Support for him throughout the kingdom was not unanimous. David was meant to return, but many still felt that he may not deserve to because they had anointed Absalom king. But David saw this and persuaded them “as one man” to support him, which they did. David and all his house were welcomed back.

As David returns to power, there are some issues that he must settle. You will recall in II Samuel 16:5-8 how Shimei cursed David as he fled Jerusalem. David bore that public display with grace and mercy. Shimei knows that he is vulnerable now that David is back in power so he throws himself on David’s mercy. He admits his sin against David and he asks David to forget what he did. Abishai, who had called Shimei a “dead dog” when he first cursed David, calls for Shimei’s death “because he cursed the Lord’s anointed.” But David retains his kingly authority over both Abishai and Shimei when he displays mercy and says to Shimei, “You shall not die.”

Another reunion takes place as Mephibosheth comes to David. Mephibosheth, the lame son of Jonathan, grandson of Saul, had been given a seat at David’s table as well as many other blessings. This was largely due to David’s loyalty to Jonathan. Mephibosheth mourned the parting of David by not caring for himself; he had not cared for his feet, trimmed his mustache, or washed his clothes since David had left Jerusalem. His appearance must have been striking. David asks why Mephibosheth did not accompany David when he left Jerusalem. To this, Mephibosheth says that Ziba had deceived him. For Ziba’s part, he had slandered Mephibosheth in II Samuel 16, and had taken steps to try and keep him in Jerusalem. Many Biblical scholars believe Mephibosheth’s word over Ziba’s because Ziba had motive to keep the estate. Also, Mephibosheth visually appeared to have mourned the loss of David as king. David’s judgment is to have Mephibosheth and Ziba equally divide the land. Mephibosheth, out of humility to the king, submits that Ziba take it all.

The third individual that David must deal with is Barzillai. He was a foreigner, a Gileadite, that had provided David with many good supplies while David was in exile. He had come with David to cross the Jordan, but would not go into Jerusalem to be honored, as David offered him. Instead, he cited his age, physical infirmities, and his desire not to be a burden to the king as reasons to pass on the offer. Instead he gives one of his servants to David named Chimham, whom David gladly receives and blesses. Barzillai, being eighty years old, then returns back to his home.

In the last verses of this chapter, we get a preview of the divided kingdom that will be the new status quo after the death of Solomon in the future. Judah and Israel are squabbling over a matter that has little consequence. It is interesting to witness this fight and reflect on how minor disagreements that reveal fundamental differences between groups can culminate in large-scale divisions. 

Here are three valuable lessons that we can take from this chapter:

  • Wisdom in loyalty: sometimes it will not always be clear who should receive your loyalty, particularly when it shifts. Many things need to be considered, such as reasons for switching loyalty and if they are worthwhile. 
  • Mercy: What would you have done with Shimei if he had publicly humiliated you and you were in a position of power over him? Think about your other personal relationships where you may have harmed others. Do you deserve punishment? Now think about your relationship with God. How many of us have committed sins against God and not received the penalty? Although it is difficult and sometimes feels opposite to what we should do, forgiveness and mercy are what is best. Why do you think that is? 
  • Opportunism pays…at first. Do not be like Ziba. Look how he started out, as a servant of David’s house. His relationship with Mephibosheth begins innocently enough when he tells David about Mephibosheth’s existence. But in the activity of Absalom’s takeover and David’s return, we see Ziba taking advantage of Mephibosheth’s disability, and he ends up receiving Mephibosheth’s land (originally Saul’s). At the end of chapter 29, Ziba has the land, but at what cost? Also, whay do you think Mephibosheth gave all the land to Ziba?

II Samuel 18: The Importance of Loyalty and Truth

After David escaped Absalom’s army, he finds rest with allies and regroups. David divides the people that are with him under three leaders: Joab, Abishai, and Ittai. This information reveals a couple of insights: one is that David was able to attract a large amount of people to his side in the wake of Absalom’s takeover. The second is that his battle savvy is still alive and well as the divisions would have given him more flexibility in taking the fight to Absalom.

David wants to join the people as they go out to battle with Absalom’s forces but the people will not allow this as they fear for his safety. So David listens to them and remains but he does provide the following instruction, showing that despite all of the conflict and betrayal, he still loves his son: “Deal gently for my sake with the young man Absalom.”

The battle between David’s amassed forces and Absalom’s “Israel” begins and takes place within the woods of Ephraim. David’s strategy to thin out Absalom’s forces across the wilderness is a successful one as Israel is defeated. Many fall prey to natural obstacles in the unfamiliar terrain. Throughout the course of the battle, Absalom gets caught in a tree and is stranded there for a time. During this period, a man with David’s army found him there and reported it to Joab. When Joab comes to know about Absalom’s vulnerability, he questions why the messenger did not kill Absalom, to which the faithful messenger replies in verses 12 and 13:

“Though I were to receive a thousand shekels of silver in my hand, I would not raise my hand against the king’s son. For in our hearing the king commanded you and Abishai and Ittai, saying, ‘Beware lest anyone touch the young man Absalom!’ Otherwise I would have dealt falsely against my own life. For there is nothing hidden from the king, and you yourself would have set yourself against me.”

This messenger’s wisdom and integrity are admirable, especially as he seems to assume that Joab would have felt the same way if he were to have discovered Absalom. But this was not the case. We should remember Joab’s character from II Samuel 3:22-30, where he killed Abner, who had recently killed Joab’s brother Asahel. Killing Abner was not something that David had ordered Joab to do, but Joab did it out of vengeance and because he believed it to be right. Joab’s loyalty was in the right place, but his actions betray an unwise and self-righteous will. Joab’s will supersedes the will of the king, both in II Samuel 3 and in this chapter. In the same way does Joab kill Absalom, thinking it best and right, but in so doing he goes against the will of the king. Absalom’s body is put in a pit where a heap of stones is laid over him. His “monument” is a sad pillar that he leaves behind, testifying that he had no sons. 

When it is time for David to be notified of Absalom’s death, Joab stops Ahimaaz from running to deliver the news and has a Cushite go instead. But after the Cushite leaves, Ahimaaz asked Joab if he could also run to give the news (even though he has no news to deliver as the Cushite is the one delivering the news). Joab allows it and Ahimaaz actually outruns the Cushite. This is consequential because when David sees Ahimaaz coming to bring news, it brings him relief that all was well with Absalom. This was likely a motivator for Ahimaaz to run quickly and deliver the news first because he did not want to see David aggrieved at the death of his son. When Ahimaaz delivers the news, he does so without mentioning that Absalom has died. But then the Cushite arrives, David seeks his news as well. The Cushite does reveal to David that Absalom has died in verse 32:

“And the king said to the Cushite, “Is the young man Absalom safe?” So the Cushite answered, “May the enemies of my lord the king, and all who rise against you to do harm, be like that young man!”

Naturally this affects David greatly. He weeps and laments that he would have died rather than Absalom. 

What are some lessons that we can learn from this chapter?

  • Honor the King.
    • The unnamed messenger honored David’s wishes concerning having mercy on Absalom and assumed that Joab would as well. Even though Joab took matters into his own hands, the messenger gave Joab an opportunity to think twice and do the right thing. The fact that Joab ignored the opportunity is something that Joab will ultimately pay for in time. Standing up for what is right is its own reward. Although it can go unrecognized, God sees it, and God rewards it. 
  • Loyalty can be misguided, especially when one is overzealous, hotheaded, or does not consider the mind of the one to whom they are loyal.
    • Look at Joab. He had the best of intentions, but they went too far when he went beyond the wishes expressed by David. There is a great lesson here for us in our relationship with God. Do we take vengeance, when God tells us that it is His to take? Or do we follow His instructions and guidance even when it is not what we want to do or not what we feel should be done? What we want and what we feel can and will very often impede us from fulfilling God’s will.
  • Adulterating the truth will backfire
    • Ahimaaz, even though he had the best of intentions and even though he put up great effort, still failed in his attempt to protect David from the news of Absalom’s death. Some news, although seemingly impossible to deliver, is better to be delivered in all honesty and truth. It should be done with sensitivity and compassion to the situation, but should not be altered because eventually, all truth has a way of coming out.

II Samuel 17: The Conflicting Advice of Ahithophel and Hushai

You will remember Ahithophel, a counselor that was esteemed by many in the kingdom as one that gave advice directly from God (II Samuel 16:23). Ahithophel had been a counselor to David but was now with Absalom. At the start of chapter 17, he advises to Absalom the details of a plan wherein David might be destroyed. But Absalom says in verse 17:14: ““The advice of Hushai the Archite is better than the advice of Ahithophel.” For the Lord had purposed to defeat the good advice of Ahithophel, to the intent that the Lord might bring disaster on Absalom.” Recall that David has deliberately sent Hushai back to Absalom so that Ahithophel’s advice could be foiled. It is interesting that Absalom, trying to overthrow David completely, consulting the wisest that he knew, ultimately does exactly what God wants Him to. Do you ever think that you are being directed by God in this way? If you were, how could it be known?

Hushai was a sort of undercover agent in Absalom’s court, along with Zadok and Abiathar, who had carried the ark back to Jerusalem when they had initially tried to flee with David. Hushai works with Zadok and Abiathar to warn David that Ahithophel’s plan could defeat David. The men (Jonathan and Ahimaaz) were spotted and reported to Absalom. After this, Absalom’s servants went looking for them. But they were not found because they were hidden by an ally of David’s in a well as they were searched for. The men eventually find David and warn him.

David flees over the Jordan river, away from the threat of attack. The precaution was unnecessary, because Absalom did not end up heeding the advice of Ahithophel in any case. The fate of Ahithophel is revealing after he finds out that his plan did not work: “Now when Ahithophel saw that his advice was not followed, he saddled a donkey, and arose and went home to his house, to his city. Then he put his household in order, and hanged himself, and died; and he was buried in his father’s tomb.”

Absalom goes after David starting in verse 24, but David is ahead of him and is cared for by allies, one of which was Machir, who had cared for Mephibosheth before David took him in. In Mahanaim, David was met by these allies, who cared for David’s and his men’s needs so that they could rest and recharge. The chapter ends with David safely resting with those that had respect for him. 

There are three good lessons that we can learn from this chapter:

  1. Planning ahead can mean the difference between life and death.
    1. David knew his men, their personalities, and he was shrewd enough to pay attention to the situation that he was leaving behind. He knew that Ahithophel represented danger, so he countered that danger with Hushai. Also, Zadok and Abiathar were there to assist. It makes us wonder, do we pay enough attention to our surroundings to anticipate future threats and plan for them? It does little good to pray and then wait when there are things we can do within our control to influence a situation. We must be diligent and willing to act!
  2. Acting selfishly can paint us into corners.
    1. Ahithophel was wise, and while his designation as being one that spoke directly from God was not true, he had the opportunity to seek God and use his wisdom for good. But when we seek glory for our own and not for the Lord, the tendency to self-destruction increases.
  3. Doing good for others has a way of coming back around.
    1. Where would David have been without the help of his allies late in this chapter? Of course we do not do good in expectation of what others will do for us, but that help can come when we need it most. Such is the beauty of God’s design in human relationships. But all should be done for His glory!

II Samuel 16: Deception and Fulfillment

As David flees Jerusalem from Absalom’s takeover, he ascends the Mount of Olives. We start this chapter as David is “a little past the top of the mountain.” He meets Ziba there, a servant of Mephibosheth, Jonathan’s son. Of course we will remember that David had restored to Mephibosheth all the land that had belonged to Saul. There was loyalty between Mephibosheth and David, a parallel of the deep loyalty and love that was shared by Jonathan and David prior to Jonathan’s demise. 

For this reason it must have been a great surprise to David when Ziba reported that Mephibosheth had stayed back in Jerusalem because, as Ziba puts it for Mephibosheth: “Today the house if Israel will restore the kingdom of my father to me.” Because of this supposed betrayal, David believes him and gives him all that Mephibosheth had. Of course we will find out late that Ziba was lying and that Mephibosheth did not leave Jerusalem for other reasons. Ziba most likely lied to David because he was caught up in the campaign against David woven by Absalom.

Then, Shimei, a member of Saul’s family, sees and curses David along the mountaintop. David tolerates this treatment, perhaps unsurprised, and says in verse 12, “It may be that the Lord will look on my affliction, and that the Lord will repay me with good for his cursing this day.” David’s strength under pressure and his faith in God were strong and reliable in this moment. 

Back in Jerusalem, Absalom is attempting to consolidate his newfound power. Ahithophel, David’s advisor, is now in Absalom’s ear and advises Absalom to pitch his tent where all of the people of Jerusalem can see that he is going in to David’s concubines. This will show that Absalom has taken power from David and it will do so in a way that everyone in the city will know. Furthermore, it completes God’s punishment for David from II Samuel 12:11: “Thus says the Lord: ‘Behold, I will raise up adversity against you from your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun.” You may take the opportunity to blame Ahithophel for counseling the evil Absalom to subvert power from David so publicly, but that assertion loses power when it is also considered that this act over David also fulfills prophecy from Nathan and punishes David for his great sin with Bathsheba and subsequently Uriah.

Now, let us look at a few lessons we can take from this chapter:

  • Skepticism in the face of incredible stories is a healthy thing
    • We might take the well-known phrase to “trust but verify” here. David had only just re-established Mephibosheth with Saul’s land, but David did not have any concrete reason to believe that Mephibosheth was ungrateful to him or unwilling to be loyal. The truth came out later – Mephibosheth stayed in Jerusalem for an entirely different reason. Had David asked more questions or been a little more patient with his judgments, he might have not told Ziba that he could have all that was Mephibosheth’s. During this tumultuous time in the kingdom of shifting loyalties, David may have been more careful. Trust is earned before it is broken.
  • Enduring insults with humility can honor God
    • What would it have looked like if David had lashed out? He would have been arguing with an angry man, perhaps one whose reason had lapsed into foolishness, and he would not have gotten justice, fairness, retribution, nor would he have convinced Shimei that he was in the wrong. Instead, David turned the insults into an opportunity to seek God’s blessing. Think about this example. This was not weakness. This was strength.
  • Both good and bad advice are freely given in this world
    • It is not difficult to garner someone else’s opinion if you are looking for it. In fact it is quite easy. More challenging, however, is discerning the quality of the advice received. Does it serve the purpose of glorifying God? Does it serve my best (selfish) interests or does it serve my best (godly) interests? Stop, think, pray: then decide when weighing a difficult decision mixed all up with advice from others.

II Samuel 15: Absalom’s Insolence

We do not know the full extent of Absalom’s thoughts, but we do not really need to in light of his actions in this chapter. David has forgiven Absalom, but Absalom’s wickedness is not to be so easily quelled. Perhaps Absalom resented his father for being ignored for so long. Perhaps Absalom wanted kingly authority himself. Perhaps Absalom was truly evil. Whichever was his prime motivation, we cannot know, but we are likely safe to assume that it is a combination of these things as well as the outcome of David’s curse as the result of his sin with Bathsheba.

After David’s “forgiveness” of Absalom in chapter 14, Absalom sets out to undermine his father’s authority. He sets himself up near the city gate so that he can receive people that have traveled far to seek David’s counsel and judgment in difficult matters. People of the kingdom would travel far to possibly receive a judgment in their favor, but when they arrived, Absalom would tell them, “Look, your case is good and right; but there is no deputy of the king to hear you … Oh, that I were made judge in the land, and everyone who has any suit or cause would come to me; then I would give him justice.”

Absalom made his father look foolish in that it seemed as if David did not have enough time for the people but that he also did not see fit to appoint someone to delegate the work to. Absalom finished off the deception with the proclamation that he would give very favorable judgments were he the one in charge. In this way, Absalom begins to build for himself a group of men that are detractors from David’s authority. He stole the loyalty of the people away from his father. 

Absalom, with permission from his father, returns to Hebron. This would not have alarmed David, as it was where Absalom was born. Absalom’s true reasoning for returning there would be to consolidate power for a rebellion against David. He took with him two hundred men that did not know of his plans. Absalom correctly surmised that they would side with him once it was clear that his rebellion against David would be successful. Absalom sent out spies and grew stronger: “Then Absalom sent for Ahithophel the Gilonite, David’s counselor, from his city—from Giloh—while he offered sacrifices. And the conspiracy grew strong, for the people with Absalom continually increased in number.” II Samuel 15:!2

Once David hears that the tide has turned he flees Israel. He leaves behind concubines to care for the home but he takes with him many advisors and men that are loyal to him, men from lands that he conquered that have been with him for many years. Ittai the Gittite and his men accompany David on his passage out of Jerusalem. Zadok the Levite priest brought with him the ark of the covenant, but David turned it back to Jerusalem, as that is where it belonged, with instructions to Zadok and Abiathar to send news to David of what would occur in Jerusalem now that David had fled. 

David ascends the Mount of Olives in tears (a messianic connection, to be sure!), and learned that a former advisor of his was not a conspirator with Absalom. At the top of the mountain, David encounters Hushai the Archite, who is grieving with David at the prospect of Absalom’s treason. David sends Hushai to Jerusalem to thwart the counsel that Absalom would receive from David’s former counselor. He is to tell Zadok and Abiathar, and they would get word to David. 

This is where the chapter ends: let us see what we can learn from this chapter:

  • Unfinished business can give birth to great calamity
    • David has many chances to meet with Absalom and to prevent negative outcomes.
    • When we address conflict head-on and with a spirit of peace, we have the best chance to put it to rest. Otherwise, it is left to fester.
  • Cunning ways and creative trickery are not the way of the righteous
    • Absalom acted nether honestly nor honorably when he intercepted people at the gate. His ways were sneaky and his intentions were neither noble nor were they righteous. Absalom could have worked with his father to effectively offer his services to the people, or even to create a succession plan, if that is what he wanted.
    • When we are honest and righteous, so are our methods.
  • Never give up hope and do the best with what you have
    • David was a sinner and experiencing the consequences of his sins, but he still had a lot going for him. His closest allies’ loyalty was still fierce and strong. David despaired, but not to inaction, he acted in hope for success and reprisal. 
    • When we accept our path, no matter how grievous, we will find that there are great advantages at hand.

II Samuel 14: False Forgiveness

This chapter tells the story of David’s faux-reconciliation with his son Absalom. 

From this distance and from what the text provides, it is difficult for us to detect the exact mental state of David as he mourned for the loss of Absalom. The conclusion of chapter 13 indicates that David “longed to go to Absalom. For he had been comforted concerning Amnon, because he was dead.” This statement suggests that David was grateful for Absalom killing Amnon and ridding him of the problem of incest and rape. On one hand, Absalom saved David both the trouble and the deliberation of how best to execute judgment and punishment among his own sons. On the other hand, and at a much deeper level for David, he must have suspected that all was the result of his sin with Bathsheba; as God through the prophet Nathan had said after those events in II Samuel 12:11: “Behold, I will raise up adversity against you from your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun.” David’s forthcoming forgiveness of Absalom will be the beginning of adversity that comes from his own house.

II Samuel 14 opens with Joab, likely David’s most loyal servant in war, noticing that David had great sorrow over Absalom living so far away in Geshur. It seems understood that Absalom stayed there because he had received no indication from his father David that he was free to return, or that if he did return, that he would not experience some great punishment for the murder of Amnon. 

Joab works with a “wise woman” from Tekoa and has her go to David and tell a story that parallels David’s own story about Amnon and Absalom. It had the effect of prompting David to send for Absalom to return to Jerusalem, a sign that he would be forgiven.

Perhaps the woman’s ploy brought an honest compunction out in David; he knew all too well that it would be better to have his son back in his presence and that God would mete out the judgment in due time. 

But David’s forgiveness of Absalom is not whole: when David tells Joab to bring Absalom back to Jerusalem, David does not meet him. Absalom returns to his own house and he does not see the king’s face. This went on for two full years.

Absalom tires of the fleeting “forgiveness” of his father and asks Joab to coordinate a meeting between them. When Joab does not respond to Absalom (perhaps out of respect for David’s decision to partition Absalom), Absalom burns Joab’s field. When Joab finally responds to Absalom to speak to him after his field is burned, he relents to Absalom and agrees to arrange the meeting. Absalom’s words are persuasive, after all: ““Why have I come from Geshur? It would be better for me to be there still.” ’ Now therefore, let me see the king’s face; but if there is iniquity in me, let him execute me.”

In the final verse of the chapter, we have a deceptively peaceful forgiveness scene: “So Joab went to the king and told him. And when he had called for Absalom, he came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king. Then the king kissed Absalom.” What happens in the chapters to follow is further fulfillment of God’s curse on David for his sin with Bathsheba.

There are quite a few things we can learn from this chapter:

  • Wisdom serves all parties well when it is used in the right way

Joab used wisdom to influence David’s decision. We should seek wise counsel to help ourselves as well as others.

  • Communication heals relationships

David and Absalom’s broken relationship was worsened by silence. Open, honest communication is key to healing broken relationships.

  • Forgiveness must be genuine

David forgave Absalom but didn’t fully restore their relationship. Half-hearted forgiveness can lead to bigger problems later. True forgiveness means restoring trust and love where possible.

  • Bad attitudes lead to bad actions

Absalom’s impatience led him to the poor decision to burn Joab’s field. When we let frustration control us, we can make rash and destructive choices. Patience and prayer are better responses.

  • God desires reconciliation

God desires that we be reconciled to him through Jesus, to have our sin absolved by His blood. God also wants us to seek peace in all our relationships, especially those within our family. 

II Samuel 13: Trouble with David’s Children

The Bible names twenty children born to David across eight wives. His firstborn was named Amnon, and was born to David’s wife Ahinoam. Absalom was David’s third son, born to David’s wife Maacah. Tamar, David’s only daughter recorded in the Bible, was also born to Maacah, making Absalom and Tamar true siblings. Tamar and Amnon were half-siblings, but marriage among even half-siblings was still against Mosaic law. 

These dynamics are what makes the events of this chapter understandable. Tamar and Absalom had a special bond. David as the king had sired many children across many wives, many of the marriages being political ones, so the “siblings” that resulted in David’s marriages would have been quite different from one another. 

Absalom and Tamar however, have the same mother. They had a bond that was special and Absalom was protective of her. Playing into this drama is the fact that Amnon was greatly attracted to Tamar, such that it had blossomed to lust. Jonadab, a cousin, suspected this attraction of Amnon’s and suggested to him a sneaky way that he might take his half-sister to bed. 

When Jonadab’s plan works, Tamar is humiliated and raped. What is interesting about the episode between Amnon and Tamar is that Amnon hates Tamar after the act is over: “Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone!” II Samuel 13:15

See how what is thought to be pleasurable sin, brought about by yet more sin, results in hate and chaos. Is not this what Amnon wanted? Why then was he in a terrible state after? Because the pleasures of sin are fleeting, and after the deed was done, Tamar’s presence reminded Amnon of the terrible deed he had done. Thus he expelled her. 

Both David and Absalom come to know of Amnon’s doings and David is “very angry” while Absalom is recorded as speaking to his brother “neither good nor bad.” This can be explained in that Amnon had authority over Absalom, being the firstborn. There would have been a sort of fear and respect in this hierarchy that precluded Absalom from acting immediately. But Absalom does eventually act against Amnon.

In verses 23-29, we see how Absalom orchestrates the murder of his brother Amnon some two years after Amnon had raped Tamar. His wrath was left to simmer and it eventually led to this. 

David suffers greatly at the loss of both of his sons. In fact, the verse that described David’s grief is ambiguous as to whether or not it refers to Amnon or Absalom. Verse 13: “But Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur. And David mourned for his son every day.”

What can we reasonably learn from this chapter? 

  • The first thing we can take away from this is to ignore unwise advice. Jonadab was a pot-stirrer and a wicked player that did not have the best interests of his family in mind as he proffered ideas that would seem clever only to evil and mischievous men.
  • Secondly, this is the beginning of David’s punishment. David had sinned with adultery and now fornication and murder is taking place within his own house. How else do we need it spelled out for us that our sins can have rash consequences on not only ourselves, but on those we hold dearest as well?
  • Lastly, look at the fallacies of Absalom’s approach. Why answer sin with more sin? Absalom’s heart may have been right to be offended and hurt by Amnon’s deeds, but vengeance was not his; it was God’s. When we take matters into our own hands, we can quite often make a bigger mess of things. 

Pray that you learn these lessons and sooner rather than later!

II Samuel 11: David’s Mistake

            This chapter is famous in the Bible for many reasons. For one, it is the classic example that is often referred to when pointing out that David was not perfect. He was a man like any other, subject to temptations and their consequences. This chapter also displays the fallacy of trying to cover sin, and it demonstrates how it can backfire on us in a way that increases our consequences, creating calamity. Finally, this chapter is the catalyst for David’s grief, which is displayed in following chapters and also chronicled in many of the Psalms. David’s grief-filled and repentant Psalms provide believers with models of prayer, repentance, and regret that have helped them through many trials. There is a lot here, so let us get started.

            Here is a basic breakdown of events:

  • David sends his armies out to war
  • David is alone on his roof, surveying the city
  • David sees Bathsheba bathing and is attracted to her 
  • David sends for Bathsheba to come to him
  • Bathsheba comes to the king and they sleep together
  • Bathsheba sends David a message that she is pregnant
  • David sends for Bathsheba’s husband, Uriah, to return to the city from battle
  • David hosts him for a night, under the ruse that he seeks updates from the front lines, but what he really wants is for Uriah to go to his wife for the night and sleep with her so that everyone will assume that Uriah (not David) is the father of her unborn child
  • Uriah honorably abstains from going home, saying in verse 11: ““The ark and Israel and Judah are dwelling in tents, and my lord Joab and the servants of my lord are encamped in the open fields. Shall I then go to my house to eat and drink, and to lie with my wife? As you live, and as your soul lives, I will not do this thing.”
  • The next night, David tries again to have Uriah lay with his wife and gets him drunk, hoping it will weaken his resolve and that Uriah will lay with his wife while inebriated. This also does not work, and Uriah once again does not sleep at his home with Bathsheba
  • Seemingly desperate, David tells battle commander Joab to place Uriah in the most dangerous part of the battle
  • Joab obeys David and Uriah is killed where the battle is toughest
  •  Bathsheba mourns the death of her husband
  • David brings Bathsheba to his house and makes her his wife, after which she gives birth to their son.
  • The record states in verse 27: “But the thing that David had done displeased the Lord.”

            Man needs a purpose. What was David’s purpose during this time? He was commanding, but from afar. There is nothing inherently wrong with him staying back, especially since he obviously trusted those he commanded to succeed without him. However, when our time is not filled, and we are surrounded by our comforts, evil looks for the occasion to strike. This was a component of David’s mistake, adding to the probability of his weakness before Bathsheba and his poor choices that followed.

It usually happens that, when things are going well, we are at our most vulnerable. This is not to say that we are weak or lack knowledge, but it is to say that our guard is down and we are exposed; we are especially vulnerable to the temptations of the devil. David is in this situation at the beginning of this chapter. He has experienced many successes on the battlefield, his leadership is strong, and he has the loyalty of not only his people, but also of many of the surrounding nations. He is respected, he is strong, and there are no immediate and obvious threats to his stature. 

            This is when we need to look out for threats that come from within. Within those we trust, within areas we consider harmless, and especially threats that originate from within ourselves. 

            Why did David fail so miserably with Bathsheba?

  • Idleness
  • Weakness + Opportunity
  • Pride

Our primary lesson from this chapter is to avoid the pitfalls of idleness and to be aware of the dangers of temptation. David did not think his decisions through, and he did not consider the possible chain of events to follow if he were to do what he wanted. He fell victim to believing that his kingship protected him from consequences. As we will see in coming chapters, he experiences great consequences as the result of his choices.

Lastly, consider the results of David attempting to cover his sins. Oftentimes, when we seek to cover our sins, the temptation says cleverly and quietly, “just do this and it will all be gone.” But as this story beautifully demonstrates, David’s first and second attempts fail miserably. He is forced to create great lies, put others at risk, and even make others (Bathsheba and Joab), complicit.

This chapter not only helps us to recognize how to avoid and resist temptation, but it also teaches us how taking responsibility for our sins early on save us from a landslide of further sins and their consequences.

II Samuel 10: Conquer and Divide

The king of Ammon mentioned in verse 1 was highly likely to have been the same Nahash that was defeated by Saul as recorded in I Samuel 1:1-11. Saul’s victory over the Ammonites at that time was a bright place in his kingship, where God was with Saul.

Moving ahead to David and the Ammonites, David remembers Nahash fondly because at some point (unrecorded in the Bible), Nahash was kind to David. Some suppose that this kindness was when Nahash gave Aid to David while David warred with Ishbosheth, Saul’s son that became king of Israel after Saul’s death. 

But no good deed goes unpunished, especially when it comes to political busybodies in Ammonite hierarchy: “And the princes of the people of Ammon said to Hanun their lord, “Do you think that David really honors your father because he has sent comforters to you? Has David not rather sent his servants to you to search the city, to spy it out, and to overthrow it?” II Samuel 10:3

Hanun, impressionable to the point of foolishness, humiliates the comforters David sent due to this supposed threat and shaves off half of their beards and removes half their garments. 

David hears of this and sends word to the men that they should wait at Jericho as their beards grew back. This sets off a chain of events where the Ammonites hire mercenaries to help defeat the Israelites, David hears of it, so he sends reinforcements to Jericho to help defend it. Along with his brother Abishai, Joab defeats the hired Syrians and the Ammonites.

The Syrians’ defeat got the attention of Hadadezer, a Syrian king. He sent for more Syrian warriors and brought them closer to David’s kingdom for battle. David, unthwarted and unthreatened, gathers all Israel and comes to Helam. There the army of Israel led by David completely defeats the Syrians. 

The net results of all this fracas is that David was able to conquer first, then divide his enemies: “And when all the kings who were servants to Hadadezer saw that they were defeated by Israel, they made peace with Israel and served them. So the Syrians were afraid to help the people of Ammon anymore.”

Once more, David has faith in his people, himself, and his God. David’s confidence in the Lord and his commitment to support and be loyal to his subjects rewards the entire nation. What is the lesson for us? 

  • Steadfastness
  • Willingness to do good even to our enemies
  • Support and help the weak
  • Stand up for the goodness and righteousness of God

Whenever you are discouraged and grow tired of doing good and maintaining righteousness in thought and deed, remember David in this chapter. He did not fail to represent God and the interests of the nation in all of his deeds. So should we be with our responsibilities and our commitment to ourselves and our Creator.